Online Grief Therapy in Oregon
Individual therapy for adults carrying loss no one seems to understand
Are you carrying a loss with no clear ending and not much support?
Maybe it’s taking on more responsibility for your aging parents. Maybe it’s the loss of a future you thought you’d have. You may feel rushed to “move on,” but you can’t. Perhaps you feel ashamed for hurting and for not being able to “handle” it all. It shows up in your focus, your body, even in your sleep.
Whatever you’re experiencing, you’re starting to notice the impact everywhere:
Your Focus: brain fog, distraction, forgetfulness, struggling to stay present or motivated
Your Body: chronic exhaustion, tension, appetite changes, sleep that isn’t restorative even when you’re “tired enough.”
Your Relationships: withdrawing, feeling irritable or numb, not wanting to talk about it because you don’t want to be a burden. This could also look like feeling responsible for everyone,
It may feel impossible now, but you can feel your grief without it taking you out. You can stop judging yourself for the loss and instead lean into it. I can help guide you there.
Grief Therapy can help!
Grief Therapy helps you do 4 things:
Name what you’re actually grieving (especially when it’s hard to define)
We put language to the loss. Whether it’s a parent aging, a future that didn’t happen, estrangement, the loss of a sibling, or a relationship ending. We’ll help you not feel “dramatic” for hurting.
Make room for the waves without drowning or shutting down
We work with how grief shows up in your everyday life so you’re not swinging between numbness, overwhelm, or shut down.
Untangle guilt, shame, and the pressure to “move on”
We address the inner voice and external pressure that says you should be handling it better, and we loosen the self-blame that keeps you stuck.
Rebuild routines and support so daily life is more manageable—without forcing a timeline
We focus on what helps you function again: steadier sleep, restorative movement, realistic boundaries, and support that actually fits your life.
HOW I CAN HELP
I’ll help you through this process, tailoring each step to your unique loss and circumstances. My approach to grief therapy comes from a place of steadiness and respect: your grief isn’t the problem; it’s your nervous system that has been carrying too much without enough support. We’ll use parts work, somatic tools, and EMDR (when it fits) so you can grieve without getting consumed by it.
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Parts work helps us slow down and listen without judging or forcing anything to change. We’ll make room for the parts of you so you can grieve with more clarity, self-trust, and less inner warfare
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Somatic grounding is about helping your system come down enough to stay present with what you feel, without getting swallowed by it. We’ll build simple, repeatable tools you can use between sessions so grief has somewhere to move, instead of living in your body as constant tension or shutdown.
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Sometimes grief is complicated by what the loss stirs up. Maybe it’s a painful moment you can’t stop replaying, the way it happened, unfinished conversations, guilt, or the shock your body still reacts to.
EMDR can help your brain and body process those stuck pieces so they don’t keep hijacking you. When it fits, we use EMDR to soften the intensity of what’s frozen in time so you can honor what mattered without being pulled under every time it surfaces.
Right now, we’re in a season when so many are carrying invisible grief. Whether it’s collective loss, burnout, or personal tragedy, you don’t have to do it alone.
We’ll build capacity, honor the bond, and help you live a life big enough to hold what you’ve lost and what you still have.
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Friends love you and try to help, but they don’t always know what to say. A therapist is like a calm guide with a plan. They give you a safe, no-judgment space and tools so you can feel your feelings and still handle everyday life.
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There’s not a “perfect” grief timeline. Many people feel more stable within 6–12 months, while waves still come and go for years; variability is normal. If you’re stuck and life isn’t resuming, that’s worth support.
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Grief usually comes in waves with preserved capacity for positive moments; depression tends to flatten everything and lasts beyond context. When in doubt, we screen and treat what’s present. Sometimes, both are present.
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Not at all! We often use healthy ways to stay connected (rituals, letters, places) while rebuilding life around the loss. Love isn’t erased; it’s carried.
Ready to get started?