You’re allowed to not hold it together.
1:1 Grief Therapy for High-Functioning Adults
Online in Oregon
Grief isn’t something to fix. It’s something to be witnessed, carried, and honored. If you were the responsible one growing up, you probably became the responsible griever, too. You don’t have to grieve alone.
Grief has never been something you thought to slow down for.
You were taught to power through the pain.
You’re aware of loss and know it’s a part of life, but that doesn’t mean you’ve learned to feel it.
At times, grief can become a to-do list: sign the papers, show up, move on.
Common things I hear:
Your grief isn’t too much. Neither are you.
imagine…
Sleeping through the night more often
Returning to routines without feeling like you're betraying their memory
Feeling sadness without fearing it will swallow you whole
Saying “no” without drafting a 3-paragraph explanation
Remembering what you loved without being dragged back to the worst day
While your grief doesn’t cease to exist, your capacity grows.
Together, we help your nervous system and your story make room for what hurts and what remains.
What we focus on in therapy
We stop making your grief a performance review and start making room for it to be real, raw, and fully felt.
Settle your nervous system first
We incorporate regulation skills so those emotional waves stop flattening you.
Giving yourself permission to feel
We’ll practice permission and widen your window of tolerance.
Unhook guilt + “I should have…” loops
When your brain replays the worst moments, we’ll target those stuck images and beliefs so they soften and stop hijacking your day.
We’ll try on a new story about who you are now, without rushing the ending.
Divorce, caregiving, job upheaval, pet loss, death of a loved one—this is all grief.
Rebuild identity after loss
HOW I CAN HELP
If your body still acts like the worst day is happening, I can help. I work with high-functioning adults whose nervous systems never got the memo that the danger has passed.
My work blends evidence-based, trauma-informed modalities to help your system shift from constant bracing to supported grieving, so you can carry love and loss without collapsing.
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Helps protector parts loosen their grip so feeling isn’t “failing.”
Untangles layered grief from old rules (be perfect, don’t need, don’t cry).
Builds permission to need support without over-explaining.
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Quick, doable body resets to ride emotional waves without drowning.
Calms your internal alarm system so sleep, appetite, and focus can slowly return.
Expands your window of tolerance for real life while living with grief.
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Loosens guilt/“I should have…” loops; reality-checks harsh beliefs.
Uses simple rituals to honor loved ones without repeating the day of loss.
Supports identity rebuild after role loss (divorce, caregiving ends, career/health changes).
Right now, we’re in a season when so many are carrying invisible grief. Whether it’s collective loss, burnout, or personal tragedy, you don’t have to do it alone.
We won’t rush you to find a “perfect” way to grieve.
We won’t package your pain into a story for others.
We’ll build capacity, honor the bond, and help you live a life big enough to hold what you’ve lost and what you still have.
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Friends love you and try to help, but they don’t always know what to say. A therapist is like a calm guide with a plan. They give you a safe, no-judgment space and tools so you can feel your feelings and still handle everyday life.
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There’s not a “perfect” grief timeline. Many people feel more stable within 6–12 months, while waves still come and go for years; variability is normal. If you’re stuck and life isn’t resuming, that’s worth support.
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Grief usually comes in waves with preserved capacity for positive moments; depression tends to flatten everything and lasts beyond context. When in doubt, we screen and treat what’s present. Sometimes, both are present.
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Not at all! We often use healthy ways to stay connected (rituals, letters, places) while rebuilding life around the loss. Love isn’t erased; it’s carried.
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